Editor: Christiaan Joubert
That’s right guys. I’m going to help you all find and hang on to the girl of your dreams – ITF STYLE!
I’ll be giving you all 5 special power ups, to help you beat the dating game or at the very least help you capture some (or all) enemy base.
(Think of this as a strategy guide. I can show you where to go, but it’s your job to get there).
Now before I continue, I’m going to mention on a more serious note that the points mentioned here are not exclusive to gamer girls. There are some things that simply don’t change and some of them are here. Just like every guy has an ego they don’t want bruised, these are some of the things that are universal in women. These are just simply some key points that most guys could use a boost in.
First a bit of back-story on me. I’m a 24 year old, 75 KG, white South African badass – But it wasn’t always like this. Back in grade 7 I used to weigh 128KG and I wasn’t lifting weights. Eventually I figured stuff out and now I can mold my body as I please. One thing I learned from this was that in every failure lies the ability to bounce back to greater heights than before. So after my latest heart break I set out to master the art of dating. My mentors included great coaches like Adam Lyon, Stephan Erdman, Kezia Noble, Arash Dibazar, and of course my two favorites, Rob Judge and Bobby Rio! However I was still skeptical so before writing this I contacted some of the gaming ladies on my friends list and asked them some questions about what turned them off and so on. The answers were an overwhelming confirmation of what I already knew! Perhaps the most pleasant form of confirmation came in the form of a meet up with a red headed bombshell! (Scheduled for next weekend).
So if there is that special somebody on your friends list you would like to take out? Sit tight, because what I’m about to tell you may blow your mind!
POWER UP NO.1
-You can’t level grind your relationship with text messages!
A lot of guys seem to think the more they send a girl those personal messages and the more she replies, the closer they’re getting. Well I’m here to tell you you’re right, you keep dragging your butt another step deeper into the “nice guy, just friends, friends-zone”. You should see those messages as a means to getting her phone number and getting her out on a date. Not as a replacement for getting to know her or as an alternative to conversation. Ideally you shouldn’t let 3 messages pass between the two of you without suggesting a meet up! (more on this in a future article).
POWER UP NO.2
-It’s not like the dating Sims you play online, gifts are a bad idea.
Guys seem to think that if they buy a girl that “perfect gift” it’ll make her eyes magically open up and realize how much she likes him. Wrong! Unless if she’s already your girlfriend or it’s her birthday and you’ve been invited. Then this is just a very bad idea! There are some situations where these could help. But if she calls you a “nice guy” then you don’t have to worry because you’re NOT in that situation!
POWER UP NO.3
- It’s a tug of war baby! Push & Pull!
Here is a simple concept to explain to gamers. Stop and consider attraction for moment like a real time strategy game! (Yeah, all your base are belong to us … I get it … really funny guys).
No – for real now!
Each move you make, you either gain territory or lose it. This might seem like an obvious thing to say, but then why do so many guys end up “giving up all their bases” so early on in the game and then act amazed when the girl gets bored and goes to play with somebody who won’t? So many guys feel they need to tell a girl how much they like her and then she’ll do the same or at least start to realize how much she likes them. Wrong again! There is nothing you can say when it comes to expressing your feeling for her that will make her like you. All you’ll do is give up a base and make the game that much harder. You’re just pushing her away. What you need to do is attract women, not chase them! EVER!
Girls (especially gamer girls) love a challenge. If they need to invest in you and work on the relationship and trying to get you, then they will be more likely to fall for you.
POWER UP NO.4
-Don’t give her your extra life!
This one is for you. When you are going to play a game, you’ll need all the 1-ups you can get! Or in more modern titles, you need to stay alive as long as possible. So why fall in love so quickly? I hate to point this out to you guys, but the moment you fall for a girl and start to think thoughts like “she’s the one” and so on, then it’s game over! You are no longer in the right mind set and you’ll likely end up blowing your chances. It’s still possible, but it’s the same as trying to beat a game on its hardest setting with only one life. Only difference is in a game of romance, you don’t get to retry. If you lose, the console switches off and self-destructs! Sure you might be able to reassemble it and try again in a couple of years’ time. However, we all know prevention is always better than a cure, so instead try to go out and just have fun and find 7 female friends (or more) who you could call up at any point and have some fun with. This will keep you from getting one track minded or coming across as too clingy. It will also help you realize if you really want that “gamer girl” as much as you think.
POWER UP NO.5
-Drop the time bomb on her
Here is perhaps the most powerful power up of them all. It’s one I wish I had sooner and I hope it will mean as much to all of you as it did to me. Do you know when a girl falls in love with you?
It’s when she’s away from you.
You have to give her the gift of missing you! Leave on a high note and just disappear for 3-4 days, act like she’s dead to you & then come back guns blazing. Just as with the “Art of War”, you too will be breaking the enemy’s resistance without fighting.
I know some of these might be hard on you, I know that to me personally these were very hard to apply. All because I loved to text the girl, I loved falling hopelessly in love; but it doesn’t work and if it was going to work it would have worked by now. So change what you are doing and make it happen!
BE IN CONTROL!
If you have any questions, please leave them in the comment section below. I will be keeping an eye on this page and will try my best to answer as many of them as possible next weekend!
Stay awesome guys and fight on!